The Redeeming Sexuality and Intimacy conference will include a wide variety of 60-minute workshops for attendees to choose from. The focus of these clinical and/or pastoral workshops includes working with sex addicts, spouses, the family, the couple as well as the role of the church in the development of healthy sexuality. See more below.
Learn more about our pre-conference, “We are Stronger Together: A Day for Partners.
In this presentation, Janice and Dan, both certified sex addiction and partner trauma specialists, will illustrate how to effectively facilitate formal disclosures using a step-by-step approach. This presentation incorporates practical tools to help you prepare for formal disclosures in a way that minimizes unnecessary pain, maximizes healing potential, respects the recovery process of both partners, and enhances therapeutic effectiveness. The presentation will incorporate both didactic and experiential elements to help you guide couples through this critical healing juncture.
Theme: couples work
Best Practices For Treatment Centers’ partner programming
Ethical and effective support and care of the betrayed partner has been the focus of discussion at conferences about sexual addiction/compulsive sexual behavior since at least 2006. In these discussions, conceptualization of the partner as a survivor of betrayal trauma has become the standard. This presentation will offer survey data from consumers regarding their perceived level of communication, support and coordination with regards to sex addiction residential treatment settings and will offer suggested practices to provide ethical and effective assistance to betrayed partners. It will include case discussions, group brainstorming around standards of care, and discussion as to how to fill any gaps in service.
Theme: betrayal trauma
Body and Soul: Spirituality, Neuroscience, and Sex Addiction Treatment
Many pit faith against science, counseling against spiritual formation, and matters of the soul against those of the body. The prevailing paradigm in Western thought for centuries has understood body and soul to be separate, the soul being more closely identified with one’s “true self.” Recent findings in the fields of social neurobiology, attachment studies, and developmental psychology challenge this paradigm. The view of the Christian Scriptures—humanity as embodied souls embedded in community—is supported by neurobiology and attachment research. In this presentation, Jake will explore insights from both biblical spirituality and neurobiology, especially in light of issues relating to the etiology and treatment of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.
Theme: sex addiction; betrayal trauma
Training up the Next Generation
Sexual addiction and partner trauma will continue to grow in our churches until we get ahead of the tsunami of sexual brokenness in our culture. At some point churches will need to focus as much or more attention on prevention as they do on healing the wounded. The most effective way for this to happen is to take responsibility for training parents to prevent sexual brokenness in their own children. In this presentation John discusses five key components, that parents can be taught, which steer children towards sexual wholeness and away from compulsive sexual behaviors. A large number of recommended resources from different authors and organizations will be part of the handout.
Theme: church; families
Better Couples Therapy Intensives
How can we optimize therapeutic intensives so that they empower two individual clients within one shared-yet-shattered relationship? Moreover, how can we treat two clients concurrently during a couples therapy intensive, protecting the sanctity of the relationship itself while simultaneously healing its most complicated individual components? How can we inspire our clients with fresh, innovative and evolving models for relational recovery, empowering them to rise above the relative comfort of “safe space,” into the transformative risk of “brave space?” This workshop will introduce Sharon’s and James’ holistic approach, one that serves to (a) leverage the momentum of clients' individual healing, (b) utilize the power of relational healing, and (c) result in post-traumatic growth for both individuals and the relationship as a whole.
Theme: couples work
Now more than ever, clinicians need to be equipped and empowered with treatments designed to help partners understand how the layers of trauma have impacted their brain, body, mind, sexuality, and spirit. Informed by her research, Sheri brings a fresh look, new tools and hands on interventions that speak life, truth and hope after sexual betrayal. She uses her expertise in trauma, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), brain-based assessments, the Empowerment Wheel© and nearly 20 years of clinical practice to promote a truth-telling process that’s aimed at turning the impact of deception around.
Theme: betrayal trauma
Ageless Play Therapy: Serious Fun That Gets Stuff Done
As helping professionals, we take our work in the world very seriously. But what if our proficiency within the field of sexual health actually depends upon our ability to take ourselves less seriously? This workshop will increase awareness of right-brain creative play therapies, understanding their capacity to (a) bypass clients’ thresholds for subconscious emotional and verbal rigidity; (b) uncover our clients’ hidden trauma, strength, stressors and capacity for personal resilience; (c) advance our clients to higher levels of self-exploration and self-expression, resulting in (d) improved clarity for treatment planning, progress management and integrative work. With decades of experience treating survivors of addiction and trauma, Sharon and James present simple-yet-powerful techniques for ageless play therapy.
Theme: sex addiction
Alone in the aftermath
As specialists who seek to support all souls healing from betrayal trauma, how can we honor the unique needs of partners recovering alone—independently and autonomously—within and beyond the aftermath of their SA relationships? This workshop is designed to meet three primary objectives: (1) To identify the specific challenges faced by divorced, divorcing and/or separated partners of sex addicts (2) To explore the different experiences and specific needs expressed by members of this demographic, using individual and composite case studies (3) To brainstorm new models for treatment, coaching and counseling specifically in support of divorced, divorcing and separated partners of sex addicts.
Hope of the World
In the past five years, Ian and the Naked Truth Project team of communicators, educators, coaches and therapists have worked nationally in the UK to inform and inspire people to start talking about “the ‘P’ word.” In this session Ian will share some of what the organization has learned, look at some case studies and discuss the practical steps that churches can take towards developing a strategic approach to addressing pornography and sexual sin. This includes a combination of both professional support and pastoral care that that enables Christians and non-Christians to find healing, hope and Jesus.
Theme: church; society
Wounding or Encouraging
As the Church, how can we love and lead men and women who’ve been impacted by sexual betrayal? Why does our attempt to help sometimes actually cause further pain and what approach should pastors and ministry leaders use to bind up sexually betrayed partners’ wounds effectively? Is there hope for women whose marriages don’t survive betrayal and how do we impart this hope? This seminar will answer these questions and so many more! Corri, Julee and Kristin all have extensive experience not only with their own recovery from sexual betrayal, but leading faith-based and trauma-informed partners’ groups that can easily be duplicated in other locations.
Theme: church; betrayal trauma
Mourning to Move
For those whose lives are forever changed by sexual addiction and sexual betrayal, there’s no denying the deep and profound loss of “what used to be” and “what might have been.” Faced with this reality, individuals, couples, families and congregations struggle to process their grief. In this presentation Gaelyn efficiently demystifies the topic of grief, specifically as it relates to the experiences of sexual addiction and sexual betrayal. This workshop will (a) introduce some lesser-known constructs for identifying and reframing grief within this demographic, (b) expand awareness about the relevance of mourning during all stages of addiction recovery /trauma resolution, and (c) introduce suggestions for mourning that can happen constructively within recovering relationships.
Theme: sexual addiction; betrayal trauma; couples work, church
There is much debate about the right path/timing for relational healing for marriages that have been damaged through sexual addiction and/or infidelity. This presentation will introduce “The Intimacy Pyramid” model: a tool through which couples learn to rebuild intimacy using the strategic components Honesty, Safety, Trust, Vulnerability, and Intimacy. Each stage balances individual work and relational reconciliation from the very beginning. This approach appropriately values the trauma experience of the partner and locates the healing for both individuals within the relationship, facilitating recovery. As practicing psychotherapists, Dan and Joanna bring clinical experience to this model. Moreover, Matthew and Joanna bring to bear their training in theology and couples counseling as well as their experience as Marriage Pastors in a congregational setting.
Theme: couples work; church
Spectrum of Spiritual Experiences within Relationships Impacted by Sexual Betrayal
In this presentation, Cat, Donna and Fran will explore and address some of the more common experiences faced by those seeking recovery from sexual sin, and their partners. We will unpack some of the factors that influence our positioning on that spectrum, such as images of God, spiritual abuse, theological teaching and the quality of supportive Christian relationships. In concluding, we will suggest ways in which we, as Christians, helping professionals, and church leaders can positively engage with anyone journeying this continuum and increase the likelihood of an outcome that strengthens faith, understanding of God and relationship with Him.
Theme: church; betrayal trauma; sex addiction
Polygraphs in disclosure: Best Practices
Stephen, Ella, and Jeff will discuss their work together conducting therapeutic disclosures with polygraph. We will discuss our process of collaborating with a polygraph examiner to help sex addicts give a full and thorough disclosure for the benefit of both partners. For the addict, they are able to release the burden of carrying secrets that fuel shame which fuels the addiction. For the partner, they finally have the truth they need to know their own reality to help them not feel crazy any more and make informed decisions for their future. We will allow ample time for questions and answers and encourage attendees to submit questions in advance.
Theme: couples work
Managing tech-based Environmental Triggers
While many of us have been trained in how to help sex addicts with their trauma and/or attachment wounds, we are often less comfortable helping them navigate environmental triggers—especially when those triggers involve technology. Today internet porn, cybersex, sexting, etc. are at the finger-tips of most eight-year-olds. The average teenager understands more about how to use technology for a sexual hit than most of us adults do about how to work our toaster. In this presentation Lisa (counselor) and her software programmer husband will show you how to guide clients, or their spouses/parents in making technology as safe as possible for those who are looking to recover from porn and/or sex addiction.
Theme: sex addiction
The Empowerment Wheel: How to Use Your Voice and Choices in Growing Strong
As clinicians we often look for practical tools that will impact our clients after sexual betrayal. The Empowerment Wheel has been created with change in mind. Our clients wrestle with shame. Much like getting stuck on a spinning merry-go-round, feelings of helplessness and powerlessness ensue. In this workshop I will uncover five roles that cause clients to react. We'll also learn how to help them find a better path into life-giving responses that create ownership.The solutions come in changing the way our clients deal with conflict by learning how to responsibly move through it. In doing so, they feel less stuck, find freedom, and become more empowered about what they can do.