She's Not The Enemy

She's Not The Enemy

“If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Mark 3:25

     On the second day of our SA couples’ intensive (therapy) weekend, I ask each person in attendance to allow themselves to be really vulnerable. I direct them to close their eyes and envision a time in the future five or ten years from now.

Enraged!

Enraged!

I have long understood that anger, possibly even rage, is inevitable on this journey. I devote many pages of Beyond Betrayal to examples of survey respondents’ (and my own) anger, and our reactions to it (usually guilt). Only recently have I also begun to see anger as a potentially healthy part of this journey.